Miranda (not her real name) is 38. She says that 23 was too young to be married, yet the guy she is in love with now is 23. “I don’t know what to do, When I talk with him I don’t feel he is younger. Age is just a number what I am worried about is if we can be together someday, I don’t want him to be 38 and say WTF!!!” I don’t regret my marriage or my kids. I am just saying at 23 I had the whole world in my feet but I didn’t do anything. I met my husband online and I wanted to get away. He lived in California and my family were telling me if I went I had to stay. I am a mom to 3 girls I can never imagine saying that to one of them. Mom doesn’t even know what an effect it had on me. It was nonsense. We lived together 2 years and sometimes, I would ask my husband to marry me because I was just freaking out. I was young and I was scared. I loved him too but there were times a light bulb went on in my head and I was thinking what will happen to me if I stay here, but I had no where to go if I went to Tennesse I was damaged goods. This was 1992 not that far back yet my family acted as if I was a bad girl, I had cousins jet setting in Indiana to Idaho to thier boyfriend’s summer homes, but not me, I was being shipped off because I was raised differently. I am not saying what is wrong and what is right. I am just talking about at 23 a girl who never got to date much, had low esteem and anxiety didn’t see the world as her oyster then.Now, I keep thinking how do I go after my dreams? I am dependent on my husband but I am in love with someone I enjoy talking to and yearn to be with. Any advice ? Thanks, Miranda

what do you know now you didn't then ?

so far so in love with him

If you have ever been in love
but the miles seemed endless and days
turned into weeks, months and maybe years
then tell us your story…

*How did you stay together
*Did you call it quits

*how did you know if she/he was the one?
*give us tips on keeping our loves alive despite the miles.

Dear Sweetheart,
I love you. When I talk to you, my whole world just lights up. I can’t push you out of my life when I long for you. I wish I had wings to fly to you. Its so unfair day after day I can’t be with you. Sometimes, I just need to hold you. I find you are amazing because you love me and I cherish that.There has been so many times we have walked away, but not far. Each time I fell more in love with you. I had the ticket in my hand and I couldn’t come see you. I still can’t believe this summer I won’t be in your arms. It is so unfair. I tell you all the time to get a girlfriend because I am far from you. That is not what I want. I want to tell you that I love you so much, but we play and we argue and we try not to talk much about love, but its there. I just want and need you. I need to touch your hand and lay my head against your chest. I wanted to look at the beach and the sunset and look up at you. Its not meant to be some friends said, but I can’t stop loving you and I know its selfish but please don’t stop loving me its so beautiful and I thank you for it.
Always,
Your Girl

I’m really trying to figure out how to go see my long distance love. This thought haunts me because I can’t stop wanting that. I have asked another friend of mine to travel with me, but I don’t have the money and Priceline.com won’t let me change my destination for a 3rd time. I envy you lovers who actually got to meet up. I don’t even want to cry anymore about it. It all happened too fast, one minute I had my tickets booked to see him, then my friend said she wouldn’t go with me. This is distance folks it is a hell. I say dis the distance, I live the pain everyday. So far away is someone I love. Its not fair. DIstance has messed with me for years. When I came to New York I couldn’t be my family in Kentucky. When I adopted my kids they were india for months, its just over and over and I try by this blog to overcome distance with you all (whoever you are) I write and hope that you will write to me and tell me your stories. We have 34 comments folks, and I know you are out there..I feel so alone in this. I feel alone in caring and loving and being helpless because of oceans, yahoo and the phone pulls him close but the truth is I can’t reach him for the life of me.

I sit here crying. I love two men. Both are lovely, intelligent men. I drifted away from my husband for sometime because he was really involved in his work, I met my friend Moudi online and we became fast friends, we have been in love and out so many times. I was going to go see him and it never worked out, and so again we are finished. He didn’t ask me to break up with him, I just realized I am married and I can’t keep daydreaming about a life with him. I was strong for 2-3 days I even thought I could “do it” and be buddies, it’s not so easy. I love him I cry and I cry because I think that he will stop loving me.I know I can’t be with him and I know if I could I would lose my husband,but when we talk I remember why we loved and that there is a bond. I don’t know if I can stick around and one day he tells me he met someone. I look at his photo and see those brown eyes that have stared at me through the webcam and I break down. Do I leave him forever, for a week a month? What do I do? I honestly love him.

lost

Did I love him
yes  more han he will ever know
It was a real love
I yearned
I wanted it would fade then grow
distance kept us from holding hands
and making plans
and yet he will never know
that I did love and I do love
and what will be I do not know
if he loves me will he fight
or stand in the shadows of a starry night?
Did I love him
do I still…
it is a love sickness
can not be cured by a pill
what can make it better ?
Perhaps in time..
I did so wish he could
have been mine..

Absence makes the heart grow fonder that is what we lovers have always heard,read or lived through.If we find someone somewhere that makes ud feel alive only to be parted by miles and circumstances how do we keep that love alive.Today,we are lucky to have email and webcams and the phone.Love can seem slmost sterile however longing to touch but being unable to do so.Arguments can break out over misunderstandings that can not be cooled with a kiss or a hug.l”Ong distance love can make lovers go crazy.When we can not be held or touched by the person we adore,hours drag out and days are punishment..There may be break ups and makeups and heart ache.Longing may seem romantic but it can make one sick literally and depressed.Couples who decide that they will ‘wait’ things out must have patience.family members may not always be supportive.Sometimes,when a couple are each from a dufferent culture they can face opposition from their family.Religious differences can be a common hurdle for people in love from a distance.How can people deal with so many issues from long distances it may supris you but the answer is the same for couples near and far they are quite simple listen to one another,trust and have faith in the love that you founf in one another because no where can be another couple like you.

Dear Nassir,
I really want to see you. I want to sit down and talk to you. I really love you. I tell myself not to. I try to remind myself that you are younger than me, that you are from a different country and culture than me, but I love you. I want you to be who you are, I need you to know that your love is valued and adored. Nassir, sometimes when you don’t say you love me I get scared. I am very tired, so I will say goodnite to you. Please know how much I care. love Nadia

1.DO YOU HAVE A LOVE FAR AWAY?
2.ARE YOU EVER AFRAID HE /SHE WILL BE UNFAITHFUL
3.DID YOU MEET ONLINE?
4.WHY ARE YOU APART?
5.IS THIS THE MOST YOU HAVE EVER BEEN IN LOVE WITH SOMEONE?
6.DOES ABSENCE MAKE THE HEART GROW FONDER?
7.DO YOU ARGUE A LOT JUST TO MAKE UP?
8.DO YOU OFTEN FEEL HELPLESS BECAUSE OF THE DISTANCE?
9.DO YOU TRY TO MAKE HIM OR HER JEALOUS?
10.DO YOU FEEL LONELY?
11.HOW DO YOU STAY IN LOVE WITH HIM OR HER …
12.DO YOU SEND HIM OR HER EMAILS OFTEN?
13.DO YOU OFTEN FIND YOURSELF FRUSTRATED BECAUSE OF THE DISTANCE?
14.ARE YOU JEALOUS WHEN HE /SHE ARE AT A PARTY AND YOU CAN’T BE THERE?
15.DO YOU REGRET BEING PART OF A LONG DISTANCE LOVE?MARIAH CAREY BOY I NEED YOU

Hey you,
I saw you online and you wrote me for a minute, yes I had a rough night. Sometimes, I feel really confused because I never felt this way about a guy. I always want to talk to you N. I wish I was there with you. I wish I could stand next to you in the same room.It’s hard not being able to physically touch you. Yesterday was hard because I kept thinking how much you mean to me and even as I write this I want to cry. I don’t want you to ever go, yet I know realationships. I know how life can one day be happy and you love someone and the next you don’t even like that person. It’s happened with me, you are younger than me, so you haven’t had that happen to you yet. It’s bad N when you have a past and you look back and you see how in love you once were and now you don’t know the person you are sleeping with. I wouldn’t ever want you to feel that way about me. Loving you gives me so much emotions because when I first fell in love with “someone” I didn’t know much about love. Maybe I still don’t but I know I care so much about you …I have to see you somehow, some way I am getting so frustrated everyday just walking around wanting to be with you N.
Hugs,
Nadia

PS: You looked so cute on Skype Sunday