Join me in a weight loss journey. I have been overweight most of my life and I know what a hell it can be to give up , to get hope and then one night get hungry and back to the same ol same. I am here to say that we can do it. We can lose the weight. The main thing is to keep it off. Also, I want to say there is nothing wrong in being a big girl, I love being a sexy, full figured beauty, but the main thing is I feel my health is suffering because now I got myself diabetes. I don’t want on shots. I want to try to fight some. So tonight I thought I would add to my blog the weight loss window. I would love for anyone to join me on this journey post stories and pics and lets help each other keep motivated !!

watch it go down!!!!!!

I am a lover of tarot, psychics, candles and all the gypsy mystical things you could dream up so when I was walking in New York city and saw a tarot card shop I had to go in.It said Tarot readings from 11 to 6. I said I would like to have one and they told me they would go ask.. I looked around the lovely little shop. There were many spiritual books, colored stones, candles, and it smelled of sandalwood . I was not nervous because I felt very calm in there maybe because I am a lover of this kind of thing. I have wasted way too much money on psychics over the phone and I sometimes try to read tarot cards myself. The lady of the store told me that the tarot reader was good and that he had had return clients. I knew no matter what I would talk and probably blurt out stuff and never learn anything. “His name is Enrique” She said and she lead me to a white door with a lace curtain. Inside the room near the window..was a tall man with a beard, a blue shirt, red tie and khaki trousers. I shake his hand and he says he is Enrique and I tell him I am margo. He gets right to work dealing out the cards and asks me is there anything I want to know about today. I tell him I am worried about love, that I love my husband and my friend far away. He says okay..the cards reveals a struggle and tells me I must have courage, it shows my friend has brought light into my life and change. He tells me he thinks I may one day meet my friend which I tell him I long to do..The cards show that I am torn between two men and have to decide what to do but that my dear friend may not be my (Rest of the road trip of life honey bun). I thank him and go back out into the shop and buy a little goddess statue and a small star shaped blue glass candle holder. I know I must of said to much but I always do ..but I did enjoy a few minutes with Enrique in the sun lit room and his tarot cards.

In the cards

Today so many of us daughters live very far from our mothers. Maybe the man of our dreams couldn’t live close to where his princess grew up, maybe you met in college and he is from a different country or a different town. Whatever the reason, it is very hard to live away from family. We do not get to just “Drop in” and visit whenever we want to, or take mom out for lunch or go check on her. As our parents age we feel even more depressed and there seems to be a no win situation. Why is it this way? Many of us will try to bring our mama to our home. How is it when Mama visits? We all need to share time with our mother, what do we do about distance when it comes to the distance that keep us from one of the people we love most?

*Call as much as you can
*Try your best not to say “Mom, I’ll call you right back and you don’t”
*write letters
*send little care packages now and then think of what all she did for you..
* Just say “MOM I MISS YOU ” it may bring you both to tears to be its the honesty that can cross the miles in a second !

me and mommy

Do you ever feel lonely? Do you have a neighborhood that is dull and lifeless? Are friends few and far between? Not all of us are blessed to be in happy go lucky neighborhoods. Some of us may even like not being bothered by the classic nosey neighbors, but for the social butterfly it can be really sad to be in a place where the door bell never rings and the kids don’t have other kids to play with. Sometimes, we have to live where we can afford, we grab the first house or apartment that we can invest in but later on realize that although we have spare change we are so bored and lonely that we should of moved into a matchbox. What can one do if you can’t yet afraid to get a place in a better local?

*Join clubs
*visit friends who live in better neighborhoods make pals with thier friends and call them over
* Take up hobbies
*Encourage your kids to call their friends over
* Be thankful you have a home many people don’t.
* Start saving money and plan better for the second home sweet home.

I lost 20 pounds and I have gained 3 back, its so easy to gain weight and so hard to keep it off, I think that each day there has to be a little pep rally inside you. If you don’t then you will get bored and just eat for the hell of it. The doctor may have been on your case for years and you have more meds than panties now, but you shouldn’t feel as if you can’t do this. I am on Weight Watchers and I count points, most days I don’t and I have to change that. I think for me dinner is the problem I love dinner because it is with the family and its always been a meal I look forward to and get excited about. The problem is all day long if I snack and grab food because I am hungry or bored, dinner time is going to be an upset instead of a happy event. What we need to do is plan ahead. Me, I never planned my meals, but I think this will be the only way to get a few steps ahead of the scales.Drink water and find fun ways to snack, carrots, apple slices celery and distract yourself ! Many, many times we eat because we are bored and even more than that we are thirsty but we don’t want the water, just something for the mouth..how about a lip gloss instead of eat primp, put on some gloss you won’t want to eat that sandwich and mess up those pretty lips or those pretty lips !!!

Have a pep rally for you everyday!

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It’s very rare to find a beautiful, uplifting, romantic perfume that is not sickly sweet or bubble gum happy. I first saw Twilight woods and thought is this after the movie? I picked up the box and didn’t see a vampire anywhere and then I sprayed the tester. I thought it was very lovely. The bottle is sexy, simple and yet I wanted to climb into the bottle and go into the woods into the beautiful scent. I find it very beautiful and I wanted to share it with you. It’s the kind of perfume a guy is going to hold you and breathe you in. It’s very clean and  I am very happy to share it with you all and say go find the light in Twilight Woods at your local bath and body works

In online friendships we rely on our computer to get us through the day, when one of us loses connection it can be a hell of a day. When my friend loses his internet and I have to buy a calling card, I am okay because I love his voice but I hate to be the one doing all the calling. When he is online he will say hi and I know he wants to talk to me, but when I call for the third time I start thinking, is this too much, because on yahoo we can see each other on and off all day.I texted my Bff or bffn (best friend for now lol) and said “I feel bad that I keep texting you but I miss you go buy a calling card !” I don’t know what will happen now because last summer he lost connection for a month. Now, the cyber cafe in town has shut down so things are really going to be hard. It makes the distance oh so much harder, I think…do you have any stories to share or when the plug is pulled…?

Today I was wondering why some people want someone and maybe others don’t? I heard a story that some people look at someone and their ancient hormones kick in and say to them “This person would make a good baby with me…” This is going for the male brain and the female..it’s like a chemistry. There is an attraction, maybe like how the cave man saw the pretty cave girl and went and carried her to his cave kind of deal. Have you ever been so attracted to someone you could not think? Its an amazing thing if you have an attraction like that and a strong desire. How did you cope with it? Did you act on it? Did you get to be physical the one you so desired and if so what was it like was it beautiful or disappointing or did your “Feelings” lead you to what you daydreamed about? Tell me I would love to share your story !!!

who is it you cant be without?

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CouscousDid you grow up in a country where the food was just toooooo good ? Tell us and let us know what its called, the story behind it did Grandma make it for you? Is it served on special occasions ? Do you have any pics of your yummie fave ? Share with us and we’ll sit the table here on DIS !

help us sit our world table

Miranda (not her real name) is 38. She says that 23 was too young to be married, yet the guy she is in love with now is 23. “I don’t know what to do, When I talk with him I don’t feel he is younger. Age is just a number what I am worried about is if we can be together someday, I don’t want him to be 38 and say WTF!!!” I don’t regret my marriage or my kids. I am just saying at 23 I had the whole world in my feet but I didn’t do anything. I met my husband online and I wanted to get away. He lived in California and my family were telling me if I went I had to stay. I am a mom to 3 girls I can never imagine saying that to one of them. Mom doesn’t even know what an effect it had on me. It was nonsense. We lived together 2 years and sometimes, I would ask my husband to marry me because I was just freaking out. I was young and I was scared. I loved him too but there were times a light bulb went on in my head and I was thinking what will happen to me if I stay here, but I had no where to go if I went to Tennesse I was damaged goods. This was 1992 not that far back yet my family acted as if I was a bad girl, I had cousins jet setting in Indiana to Idaho to thier boyfriend’s summer homes, but not me, I was being shipped off because I was raised differently. I am not saying what is wrong and what is right. I am just talking about at 23 a girl who never got to date much, had low esteem and anxiety didn’t see the world as her oyster then.Now, I keep thinking how do I go after my dreams? I am dependent on my husband but I am in love with someone I enjoy talking to and yearn to be with. Any advice ? Thanks, Miranda

what do you know now you didn't then ?